Many women are asking, "How do I find or become a mentor?" Most of us want good strong connected relationships, but are you willing to do whatever it takes to have it? The first tip to a mentored relationship (on page 115 in the book) is: Discover Your Heart's Desire. Figure out what needs YOU have (Do you need help primarily with your marriage, your kids, yourself, or your career, etc.?) and SEARCH for the BEST living example you can find. Whatever void you feel in your heart, PRAY and ALLOW God to answer your needs through those He puts in your path. If you meet someone who is willing to connect with you, DON'T be afraid to call and get together. "Keep on asking and it will be given you: keep on seeking and you will find; keep on knocking [reverently] and [the door] will be opend to you. For everone who keeps on asking receives; and he who keeps on seeking finds; and to him who keeps on knocking, [the door] will be opened." Matthew 7:7,8
I was a strong willed, young mom who was called to be a leader's wife, but I felt insecure. Joy was the best living example of a leader's wife I had ever met. We met one evening 23 years ago and I followed up by inviting her to lunch. I arranged a babysitter for my daughter and picked up Joy since she was new to the area. We had the best time together and we stayed in touch.
If you want to mentor, be available. Be WILLING to be hospitable and receptive when someone younger or inexeperienced makes the littlest effort to get together. Don't worry about misunderstanding or personal rejection. The same healthy foundational principles for a good friendship or marriage apply to mentoring.
I had no idea that God was simultaneously filling a void for Joy as well because her husband had recently died and she felt lonely. Her heart's desire was to help people, so Joy was TRUE to her heart's desire by responding to the invitation to get together. God filled the huge emptiness in her life with our friendship, which evolved into a valuable mentoring relationship.
If you are looking for a mentor, start by asking yourself questions like these:
Where do I feel most needy in my life? What issues or problems keep popping up that I need help solving? What negative behaviors do I need to work on? Do I feel there are areas of my life that truly need improvement? Who do I look up to? What type of personality and character traits am I attracted to? Are these traits that I should be attracted to?
If you would like to be a mentor, start by asking yourself questions like these:
Am I willing to talk when I am approached by someone in need? Am I open to new friendships? Am I willing to take the time and risk to get close to someone? Am I patient and willing to go through the process?
I would LOVE to hear any feedback or any of your personal experiences. Please tell me! I would also LOVE to hear any questions and I will prayerfully do my best to answer them. I look forward to hearing from you soon! Go for it!
I was a strong willed, young mom who was called to be a leader's wife, but I felt insecure. Joy was the best living example of a leader's wife I had ever met. We met one evening 23 years ago and I followed up by inviting her to lunch. I arranged a babysitter for my daughter and picked up Joy since she was new to the area. We had the best time together and we stayed in touch.
If you want to mentor, be available. Be WILLING to be hospitable and receptive when someone younger or inexeperienced makes the littlest effort to get together. Don't worry about misunderstanding or personal rejection. The same healthy foundational principles for a good friendship or marriage apply to mentoring.
I had no idea that God was simultaneously filling a void for Joy as well because her husband had recently died and she felt lonely. Her heart's desire was to help people, so Joy was TRUE to her heart's desire by responding to the invitation to get together. God filled the huge emptiness in her life with our friendship, which evolved into a valuable mentoring relationship.
If you are looking for a mentor, start by asking yourself questions like these:
Where do I feel most needy in my life? What issues or problems keep popping up that I need help solving? What negative behaviors do I need to work on? Do I feel there are areas of my life that truly need improvement? Who do I look up to? What type of personality and character traits am I attracted to? Are these traits that I should be attracted to?
If you would like to be a mentor, start by asking yourself questions like these:
Am I willing to talk when I am approached by someone in need? Am I open to new friendships? Am I willing to take the time and risk to get close to someone? Am I patient and willing to go through the process?
I would LOVE to hear any feedback or any of your personal experiences. Please tell me! I would also LOVE to hear any questions and I will prayerfully do my best to answer them. I look forward to hearing from you soon! Go for it!
posted by Lindsey at 1:29 PM
2 Comments:
I'm so glad you explain what mentoring is, how to be a mentor, and how to find one. I think many men and women want a mentor relationship, but don't know how to initiate and develop one. A mentor relationship is an object of desire for alot of people and your book makes it seem more tangible. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences!
The experience, strength and hope of our life is best passed on within the safe setting of a trusted friendship. Joy did this with me and we shared how it worked. Our deepest desire is to help others and that is why we wrote about our relationship. Thank YOU for sharing. That's what it's all about!
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